Relationship Psychology-Codependency-Counter-dependency-and-Healthy-Attachments
Articles on the psychology of romantic and close relationships. Codependency, counter-dependency, attachment styles, and CBT techniques for building healthy, harmonious partnerships.
Secure Attachment Style: How to Get Out of Drama, Stop Saving Relationships, and Build Healthy Love
Secure attachment is not an innate gift, but a set of skills. Four CBT techniques: presumption of good intentions, transparent communication using the formula "I see – I feel – I ask," the "us against the problem" conflict algorithm, and the triangle rule (balance of three zones: my life / your life / our shared life).
Anxious Attachment Style: How to Stop Panicking When Your Partner Pulls Away and Get Off the Emotional Roller Coaster
Anxious attachment relies on personalization and catastrophizing — the partner is used as an external regulator of safety. Four CBT techniques: separating fact from anxious illusion, pausing in pursuit, containment through the Inner Adult, and shifting focus from expectation to creation.
Walls Instead of Boundaries - What is Counter-Dependency - Overcoming the Fear of Intimacy and Stopping Running from Love
Counter-dependency is an avoidant attachment style with a deep-seated belief of «intimacy = pain». Four CBT techniques: identifying sabotage (unmasking fictitious partner flaws), measured vulnerability, reformatting the belief «intimacy = prison», and a warning shot instead of ghosting.
Losing Yourself in a Partner Understanding Codependency and How to Regain Focus on Your Own Life Without Destroying the Relationship
Codependency is when self-esteem and mood are 100% dependent on a partner. Four CBT techniques: separation of emotional budgets, inventory and revitalization of one's own 'Self', letting go of hypercontrol, and dismantling the belief 'I won't survive alone'.